What is up with this dude?

Why does my neighbour cry at everything I say to him?
This guy lives with him wife and son next door to me and they are big at slamming doors and gloating over their new jeep. I’ve spoken to the dad about slamming doors and holding his little conversations with his friends in his own flat. He started crying at that (literally) when the conversation got heated. On my way into the flat building from work, he started bragging about his new jeep and I told him he has more cars on this street than the law allowed and he started crying and said "fuck you" to me and ran in the house and slammed the door. His weird son kept looking out the window at me while I was getting my groceries in. What is up with this dude? Also his dad keeps going on and on about his son James being in the animations club and producing a bear that just walked across the computer screen. And, one afternoon before Christmas holidays I said to him on my way out to my car that I like their little "Santa Stop Here" sign on their window. HIs mother (keep in mind this dude is like 39 or 40) had his mum come to my car one evening after that and asked me, what did I do to upset Shawn (the dude)?

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6 Responses to What is up with this dude?

  1. ♦ Lu Bu ♦ October 1, 2010 at 5:37 am #

    Even if your comments were not intended to be mean-spirited, he might of taken it that way as well. For future notice you can take caution into what you say and mayyyyybe tread a little more softly and cautiously around people……..

  2. e October 1, 2010 at 5:37 am #

    Sounds like he has some issues with insecurity and dealing with interpersonal relationships. Counseling would help.

  3. katt4689 October 1, 2010 at 5:37 am #

    First of all, it’s called paragraphs. Please write in them, because it is difficult to decipher jumbles of words, lol.

    It sounds like that guy was just someone looking for attention, yet when he had gotten the ‘wrong response’ from you, instead of praise, he began to cry at that. Or, what you said triggered some other thought or memory in his head that made him cry.

    Usually when I cry, many times it is out of anger and frustration (not many times sadness) so it could be that also, a sort of "Who the hell do you think you are, telling me I have too many cars and that I can’t slam my own doors to my own house" etc etc. People are people. They are very touchy and persnickety on the things you comment on and some people take things very seriously because they are sensitive.

    Even if your comments were not intended to be mean-spirited, he might of taken it that way as well. For future notice you can take caution into what you say and mayyyyybe tread a little more softly and cautiously around people.

    As for the mother, you should tell her straight up that it wasn’t your fault, you haven’t said anything mean and just recount truthfully what happened. Unless, what you said was in fact meant to be mean, then that’s a different story, lol.

    Good Luck!

  4. Grace October 1, 2010 at 5:37 am #

    Ask Shawn about his problem.

  5. howie October 1, 2010 at 5:37 am #

    Sounds like you need to move, and as far as your neighbor if he is so well off why does he live in a apartment, kinda like the brothas driving escalades but don’t even have a home!

  6. roseywild October 1, 2010 at 5:37 am #

    The "slamming doors" issue tells you that there’s some disagreements in their lives. Perhaps the father is trying to make a good living and enjoy his cars yet the spending gets in the way of personal happiness with his family. It’s good that you complemented the Santa sign even if the son cried. Perhaps it was a purchase that wasn’t supposed to be made and the father laid a guilt trip on the son. I don’t know. I can only advise you to be nicer to them. Talk to the dad about his cars and take a general interest in your neighbors. So what if they have more cars on the street the law allows? When the dad shared info with you about how proud he was of his son, perhaps he wanted some positive feedback. Crying is a sign of deep hurt carried inside.