What should I do about three guys I chat with from an online dating site?

I decided to sign up again to an online dating site, after the success of a friend from another site. There were a lot of messages but I only found a few of interest. A couple of the guys I messaged myself. The problem is all three seemed to forget the rules of offline meeting.

Guy number one wants to meet me at a gay club at night. We had an uncanny conversation about nightclubs and said I’ve never been to a gay night club before. He decided our first meeting should be at this club. We talked on the site a few times for a couple weeks and twice on the phone.

Guy number two I messaged first on the site. Swapped a few messages for a week and he’s actually someone I’ve met before years ago. We exchanged numbers but he started becoming annoying. He’ll send 5 text messages at once and invited me out one night to a Chinese restaurant in his town. I told him I was working and I’ll make plans to meet later. Even before the invite to the restaurant, he wanted me to come over to his house to have dinner. I declined because I don’t fully know him. Later on I asked if he would do lunch with me and agreed. I told him of a place yet he wanted to go some place else. I said fine because I know the place. Before our supposed meeting, he insisted on coming to see me at work (I work for a major retail store). I told him it was too soon for that kind of encounter. Anyways, one day I pulled into my apartment complex parking lot and spotted a jeep pulling up on the side. I swear it looked like him so I hurried along into my apartment. Haven’t heard from him since.

Guy number three is perfect until he mentioned isolation and sexual advances. I said we could have a picnic but he wants it in the middle of the woods. Another option is for him to come to my town and eat chinese food. He wants me to pick him up from the train station, not happening. Our conversations were really great except for his sexual advances such as "I want to be deep inside you" and "I want to kiss you all over".

I’m 25 years old and I know giving my number is bad. I figured how else would I know there voices if they don’t get my number. Anyways, every time I sign up on a dating site, the men just don’t get it. I’d love to hear some advice and opinions.

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3 Responses to What should I do about three guys I chat with from an online dating site?

  1. olivia Reeves September 7, 2010 at 8:01 pm #

    well giving out your number is not right till that time until you have known him a bit on IMs once you are sure that this guy is the right guy then go on with the instincts……….

  2. Glamiva September 7, 2010 at 8:01 pm #

    Do what your first reason to join the dating site.

  3. sclchile c September 7, 2010 at 8:01 pm #

    The real deal starts when u meet them in person. Until then it is just a prelude—u never know what’s you’re going to get, as Forrest would say…
    So meet them ASAP!
    Liz